One useful idea I learned in teacher's college is to give very specific compliments.
You want to reinforce a positive behavior. You want that person to do more of that particular behavior.
As a teacher, an example might be saying to a student, "I really liked the way you showed your work on this math problem. It helps me understand your thinking. It makes it easier for me to help you."
With your child it may sound like, "I appreciated the way you picked up all your stuffed animals tonight and put them in the box in your bedroom. I only had to ask you once to do it."
These specific compliments are much better than a generic, "Good job!" or "You're awesome!"
I think the reason specific compliments work is that the person you are complimenting knows you are paying close attention to them. They feel like you see them, and we all like to be seen by others.
One useful idea I learned in teacher's college is to give very specific compliments.
You want to reinforce a positive behavior. You want that person to do more of that particular behavior.
As a teacher, an example might be saying to a student, "I really liked the way you showed your work on this math problem. It helps me understand your thinking. It makes it easier for me to help you."
With your child it may sound like, "I appreciated the way you picked up all your stuffed animals tonight and put them in the box in your bedroom. I only had to ask you once to do it."
These specific compliments are much better than a generic, "Good job!" or "You're awesome!"
I think the reason specific compliments work is that the person you are complimenting knows you are paying close attention to them. They feel like you see them, and we all like to be seen by others.
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Absolutely. I would say we all Need to be seen. To feel like we’re understood and appreciated. Of course by our parents but by others as well.